I really need to speak to someone... BUT, I'm a man...
Over generations, We have built Men up to be "manly" and not show or express feelings. We still to this day (even in 2022) tell guys, "just get over it" or something like "suck it up". It is often looked upon as a sign of weakness...
We need to end the stigma that it is not okay to seek help. We need to end the stigma that we shouldn't talk about our feelings.
Men deal with things differently than women, but ultimately still have to process things through the mind. When we process negatives, this can make us hurt more than we realize,causing mental trauma. When left unchecked, this can lead to hurt and anger. Men often lash out and take on maladaptive behaviors (high-risk behaviors including substance abuse, gambling and other forms of addiction) to cope with said traumas, rather than seek someone to talk to. Over time, this can even lead to suicidal thoughts.
Instead of getting bitter, let's get better. It's hard work trying to switch those letters, though.
It takes A LOT of courage to ask for help... but in doing so, you aren't admitting weakness. You are actually saying you are strong enough to admit you can't do it alone, and you need a hand back up to fight another day.
So when is it time to ask for help?
Some warning signs:
(This is not a complete list, but these are some of the major ones)
- Anger, irritability, or aggressiveness.
- Noticeable changes in mood, energy level, or appetite.
- Major change in sexual function/desire.
- Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much.
- Difficulty concentrating, feeling restless, or on edge.
- Increased worry or feeling stressed.
- Misuse of alcohol and/or drugs.
- Sadness or hopelessness.
- Suicidal thoughts.
A lot of men fall prey to the false idea that they should be “tough enough” to fix all their problems on their own. They worry that by showing vulnerability, even in the case of physical illness, they may lose their authority with others.
As a result, They may believe they can fix this problem quickly and move on to the next — and they may be in denial that there is a problem at all.
Addressing this, and helping men work past it, requires first ending the stigma of asking for help.
We must foster more transparency around mental health issues, No one is immune to stress. Talking with others about how it is affecting you can foster empathy, camaraderie, and support — all of which fight against the feelings of isolation on which addiction and mental health issues can thrive.
Let's do better... so that we can all get better!
Chuck and the Neuro Harmony Team
Journey on, my friends....